Courtesy of The Black Socialite  This Vivienne Westwood gown hasa waistline defining corset bustier asymmetrically draped with contrasting striped silk satin taffeta and worn atop a floor sweeping trumpet bottom evening skirt.
 Italian designer Oppio glams-up a pair of patch pocket jeans and matching denim jacket with an intricate embroidery of golden rickrack and beaded appliqués that accent a stonewashed green tint and a pair of gold wedge heel sandals from Baby Phat.  This Emanuel Ungaro peplum cut zipper front jacket of Crocodile and Mongolian lamb exotically accessorizes a classic pair of pinstripe pants worn with a ruched silk-jersey bustier. Last night, TV One aired a wonderful documentary on The Ebony Fashion Fair. The annual celebration of style and fashion is celebrating its 50th Year in 2008. The re-broadcast is scheduled to air again this Friday (check your local listings).
The documentary really gives a rich historical perspective of how groundbreaking this type of event was/is for the Black community. The documentary's contemporary spin not only dealt in the challenges Mrs. Eunice Johnson (Producer and Director of the Ebony Fashion Fair) faced with staging a production of this magnitude, but also addresses how America has come full circle in terms of excluding Black models from the runway.
I was deeply moved and impressed with how she leveraged her personal, professional, and social networks in order to make the event successful. She also used her own money to purchase the haute couture pieces that appeared in the show in the early years (yes...I was shocked by this as well).
We own her all of the credit for introducing Sistas to Chanel, Fendi, Valentino, YSL, and Gucci.
Mrs. Johnson also successfully launched Fashion Fair Cosmetics which spurred other companies to launch 'ethnic cosmetics' lines.
What was always nice about The Ebony Fashion Fair is that Johnson Publications allows the event to be showcased as a fundraising activity for many of our BSE organizations including the sororities, the fraternities, the Links, Jack & Jill, the Girlfriends, Chums, Moles, and others. The show was traditionally a time for us to gather together in our best outfits and enjoy a spectacular event.
Consider attending the show if it rolls through your town. The clothes are really smashing this year!
Or you can buy some Fashion Fair Cosmetics as a nod to the great legacy The Johnson Family has created for us in this country. They were the first to show all aspects of the Black experience in America and taught many of us that Black is truly beautiful. Cheers! Read more at The Black Socialite: Covering the Lifestyles of Black Socialites.
This website was founded by a Super Socialite insider who enjoys having fun and making the world a better place! She lives a fabulous life and encourages others to do the same. This blog includes some of her junkets and musings about Black socialite life. If you are a member of the tribe or aspire to become one, this rich, dishy recipe should delight, entertain, and educate you!
This body wrap removes toxins from the skin and gives skin a healthy glow.
 Materials:
1/2 cup powdered clay
1/4 cup powdered kelp
1/4 cup distilled water
1/4 cup sea salt
1/2 cup aloe vera gel
basic shower curtain or plastic wrap
Preparation:
Blend ingredients together in a bowl to form a smooth paste. Generously spread paste all over your body. Lay some plastic wrap or a shower curtain down in a bath tub and lay on top of it. Wrap the plastic completely around yourself. Relax to soothing music as you allow the mud to dry. You may find that the clay itches a bit as it dries. If it becomes too uncomfortable, gently pat the clay with a little water. After 30 minutes rinse the mud off with warm water. Pat dry and follow up with a hydrating moisturizer. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
By Janice Wee
 Especially if you are meeting existing clients or prospects!
Looking professional means grooming is paramount. Look immaculate. Clothes should be well pressed and fall flatteringly when you move. Nails should be well kept and makeup should not be overdone.
First impressions count. The way you look, the way you carry yourself, and the image you project makes a difference in the direction the meetings might take. You want to impress your contacts, don't you?
Showing up in a crumpled outfit, no matter how expensive it might be, will not make a good impression. So unless there will be an iron in the hotel room you will be staying, or you intend to lug along an iron to press your clothing, or the hotel offers laundry services you can count on to get you in well pressed clothes before the meetings, avoid clothes that crease easily.
For your jacket, skirt and pants, avoid 100% linen or 100% silk clothing. Although they look and feel fabulous when well pressed, they wrinkle easily. Instead, pack jackets, skirts and pants that travel well.
By the way, the most important piece of clothing you can pack into your suitcase for your business trip is a great jacket. That one jacket can smarten up anything, be it a dress, tank top and pants, or camisole and skirt.
For this all-important jacket, go for one made of wool or at least a wool blend which falls flatteringly on your figure, yet travels well. A wool or wool blend jacket will not crinkle like 100% linen or silk. Even artificial fibers like polyester and rayon travel well as they don't crinkle easily. A blend that is made of wool and synthetic fibers would travel well and may be just what you need for that business trip. Pick at least 2 jackets in neutral shades. Black, navy, brown, white and gray are business-like colors that are easy to match. You jacket should be feminine, yet work worthy.
Next, pick camisoles and tank tops in colors you love. These can be worn under your jacket, paired with skirts or pants. Get a skirt and a pair of pants to go with those 2 jackets. Then add a dress or two. Make all these wool or at least a wool blend so that they will look great when you finally get to your destination. You can also get away with lycra blend tank tops and synthetics, as these travel well too.
Still, if the weather permits, go for wool as natural fibers look and fall much better than synthetics. They look more expensive too, which makes them great for your image as a successful professional!
You can get wool clothing at http://www.buyclothing.net
Sugar scrubs are perfect for exfoliating dead skin cells and stimulating blood flow.
 Materials:
1/3 cup sugar
3 drops food coloring (optional)
1/2 teaspoon coconut oil
10 drops vanilla essential oil
Preparation:
Mix all ingredients together and press into lightly oiled mold. (The clear, plastic Crisco shortening stick tubs work well). Allow bars to dry (24-48 hours) before use.
To Use: Take sugar scrub bar and rub it on to wet skin. Give extra attention to rough areas. Be aware that placing the bar in water will cause the sugar to dissolve and the bar to turn to mush. Make smaller, one-time use bars for the shower. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This would make a lovely and personal gift for someone special. Decorate a glass jar and add a small wooden spoon for easier application.
 Materials:
3/4 cup buttermilk
3/4 cup vanilla essential oil
1 teaspoon sweet almond oil
3 cups epsom salts
loofah
Preparation:
Combine ingredients. Stir well. Dip the loofah into your vanilla mixture. Using circular movements, rub over the skin, including the face. Give extra attention to rough areas. Continue to do this until your body is covered. Rinse off in a cool shower and pat dry. Follow up with a soothing moisturizer. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
"Letter to the Editor" Dr. Yakini,
I am in the beginning stages of trying to take care of myself: skin, hair, and body. So you can imagine my joy when I saw your website! My question is about my hair. It is soooooo thin. What do you recommend to aid in thickening it up?
I'm in the process of washing and deep conditioning once a week now so we shall see if this helps at all. Are there any special conditioners you'd recommend? What about vitamins? Hair tips! Anything would be greatly appreciated! Thanks again for creating the site and I'm looking forward to all of your updates and advice. I will be sharing your site with all of my friends!
Thanks
Dear Reader,
Thank you for the lovely email! I am always happy to share healthy hair tips from my regimen with  you and the other ladies of GHW®. Be mindful, however, that I have extremely fine-textured and soft, type 4a hair that is mildly relaxed. So I designed my regimen with minimal manipulation in mind, as this is what has allowed me to retain length while also thickening the hair shaft.
I encourage you to use these tips as a guide to help you develop a personalized regimen, based on your own hair type and needs.
Overview
As I've indicated, my hair is naturally very fine/thin and that is genetic. However, prior to 2005 it was thiner and limper than it had to be. This is before I joined the on-line hair community and learned to properly care for it. At this time my hair was seriously thin and over-processed, primarily from relaxing too frequently and also indulging in one too many Dominican blowouts. Further, the ends were split and raggedy. [Aside: I am a major advocate of Dominican salons today. However, now I only get the roots blown out after a rollerset].
In August 2005 I made the decision to start taking better care of my hair, stop relying on extensions for length, and do only what works for me, rather than following the advice of a stylist or hair magazine. It was at this time that I began to discover the factors that were keeping my hair thin and contributing to breakage.
Past Mistakes
- roughly combing my hair every day, throughout the day
- wrapped my hair every night, in the SAME direction, and securing the wrap with a BRUSH
- relaxing my hair every 6 weeks, and sometimes a few days sooner, if I felt that it "needed" it
- using a regular touch-up, when all my hair ever needed was mild
- playing in my hair with my fingers (combing through it absent-mindedly and/or twirling it around my fingers)
- failing to wear protective styles (i.e., wearing it down often, so that the ends were frequently brushing against my rough cotton coat or shirt)
- not moisturizing properly, especially not the ends. This resulted in dandruff and dry, rough ends that would break easily
- trimming too much and too often. A good trim 1-2 times per year is all you really need... that is, if you protect the ends and DUST them regularly to remove splits
- dying my hair, using permanent dye with bleach, repeatedly, several times a year (out of sheer boredom)
- using a curling iron on a daily basis
Since embarking upon my healthy hair journey in 2005 I've picked up some really valuable tips. I am pleased to note that my hair is substantially thicker and has also reached waist length! I attribute this progress to a number of reasons:
Thicker, Healthier Hair
*Note* These are tips that work for me. Various hair types require varying levels of care, so make sure you tweak your regimen and do what works for yours! Drink lots of water and eat a healthy, balanced diet! Healthy hair begins from within. Your hair, skin, AND nails will thank you!
Sometimes it isn't possible to get all the nutrients our body needs from our daily diet. Vitamins will complement your diet as well as help to stimulate your hair's growth rate. I suggest taking a multi- and hair vitamin. I recommend:
Biotin (10 mg)
One A Day For Women
B-100 Complex (optional)
Avoid DIRECT heat at all costs. That includes flat-irons, blow dryers, and curling irons.
In lieu of direct heat, roller set under a hooded dryer (indirect heat) to dry, with large magnetic rollers. Then finger tousle, rather than comb out, your hair... as the curls fall naturally, this makes for a really sexy, big, wavy look! Very "Charlie's Angels."
Pin curl your hair at night to maintain that fresh-out-of-the-salon, bouncy look. For a curly/roller set look, make the pin-curl smaller. For a looser, wrapped look, make the pin-curl looser..... OR just tuck the hair under your satin bonnet and sleep with it loose.
Shoulder Length Ladies: When hair is shoulder length it's even MORE prone to breakage because it's in contact with your clothing. The frequent rubbing against rough wool and cotton is fraying those ends!
Avoid wrapping if you can (especially fine-haired ladies). Over time, it may thin out your hair on one side. If you MUST wrap, alternate directions nightly.
Try "stretching" your relaxer. See if you can go 2-3 months instead of <6 weeks. This prevents overlap of the chemicals onto the previously relaxed hair, and avoids weakening of the hair. Eventually, your hair will be stronger. There are some women who can stretch for 4 months plus. Do only what works for YOU. I find that stretching this long isn't good for my fine hair, so at the most i'll stretch for 8-9 weeks.
Go with the mildest relaxer that you can! How do you really know that you need that super.... or that regular? If a milder relaxer can straighten your hair to your liking, then opt for this one! I recommend experimenting with a milder relaxer for one touch-up just to see how your hair likes it.
As long as the ends of your hair are exposed.... they aren't protected! During your grow out process, they should be seen only rarely. Find a style that allows you to moisturize and tuck those ends in. (Click the thumbprint to enlarge image of my protective style).   
Be creative AND frugal! Use what's in your kitchen. Add eggs or mayonnaise (protein) honey, ripe avocado, coconut milk, or coconut/olive oil (softness/silkiness/moisture), crushed garlic (prevents breakage), or cayenne pepper (stimulates scalp) to your conditioning treatments for at-home special pampering treatments!
Dust as needed. I haven’t had a "major" trim in years. And I really don’t need it! If you protect the ends well, all you'll require is an occasional dusting. You'll NEVER see growth if you allow your stylist to give you a trim with every touch-up! While fresh, bluntly cut ends are attractive, be mindful that this is an aesthetic preference and has very little do with growth!*
If the ends have already split or thinned you have no choice but to cut them. Best to get rid of the damaged ends now....then protect, protect, protect! The good news is that after one GOOD trim, all you'll need to do is dust for maintenance from that point on.
Try not to comb your hair every day! The less you comb/manipulate your hair, the less your ends risk breaking off (especially during the early phases of your hair journey, when your hair is still vulnerable/damaged). The growth that you retain will be well worth it! Combing when wet is best for me. When I do comb dry, I use a soft, medium- to wide-toothed comb. If you can find a seamless comb, even better.
Whenever possible, avoid brushing your hair. The bristles of a brush are harsh and may snap your hairs, resulting in unnecessary breakage.
Your hair is made up of about 70% Keratin Protein. Essentially, you NEED protein for healthy hair! If you don't think you are getting enough protein in your diet, then add a protein shake. In the past I've drank Perfect Zero Carb Isopure Whey Protein in mango peach. It is delish! Have fun and throw some fresh fruit and honey in it!
My hair responds well to strong protein, but that does not mean yours will too. I use Aphogee Treatment For Damaged Hair every 10 weeks, but I may sometimes use a milder protein treatment in between. I like the ORS Hair Mayonnaise as a pre-shampoo treatment. Topical protein is just as important as internal protein!
Deep condition your tresses at least once per week, for a minimum of 15-20 minutes. I exclusively use Dominican products (Aceite de oliva shampoo by Capile or Nacidit, Aceite de oliva rinse for detangling, Avocado Cream Conditioner with cholesterol for deep conditioning). However, there is a wide array of shampoos/conditioners on the market, and I urge you to do your research, experiment with a few, and find what your hair likes/responds to!
Moisturize, moisturize, moisturize!!!! This is a 2-Step Process: moisturize & seal. African-American (Type 3-4) hair is naturally drier than Type 1-2 hair.... so it's important that we keep our hair moisturized in order to retain our growth. Otherwise, it will grow.... and then break right on off.
Still not getting enough moisture? You may want to consider "baggying" your entire head at night. Here's how a frugal lady like me baggies: I use one of the cheapie plastic caps from the drug store, or saran wrap/plastic grocery bag if I've run out. Moisturize as usual, bun loosely, wrap the plastic around my head closely, and put on my silk scarf to secure. You will find that your hair is slightly damp in the morning, and that's okay. In the morning your hair is already styled (the same bun from last night) and all you need to do is use your fingers to "clean it up," i.e., lightly scrape back any hairs that are awry. The brush/comb does not need to touch your hair at all during this process.
Shedding is natural. A shed hair is long (the length of a full strand) and has a bulb at one end. Breakage is NOT natural! If you are finding short, broken hairs on your shirt and/or the floor when you comb or style this may be an indication that you are lacking protein, moisture, or BOTH!
Consider using Henna, especially if you have FINE strands like me. Henna thickened my strands substantially, and also added a lovely, subtle auburn tint. It was somewhat drying, so I did have to increase my moisturizing to counter this. At one point I was using the Henna weekly, then my schedule no longer permitted. After I stopped the results of the Henna lasted for a few months, and then I found that my hair reverted to its natural finer texture. Refer to my Henna article for more about my experiences with this.
Treat yourself sometimes! Although I am a major advocate of protective styling, I do wear my hair out on the weekends and special occasions. I find that wearing a bun, or similar updo, is an attractive, conservative look for work. However on the weekends it's fun to "let my hair down" in every sense of the word. I encourage you to do the same!
*More On Trimming
In the past I trimmed with every relaxer, per my stylist's suggestion. I had been conditioned to believe that this is what you are "supposed" to do. Thus, although my hair "looked" and certainly was healthy, I was not seeing any growth at all. Essentially, my stylist was trimming off the 1/2" of new growth I got monthly.... so I never saw a difference in length. My hair remained at one length for years.
These days I wear my hair in a protective style Monday through Thursday, which keeps the ends free of most destructive elements. For the last several years I have only gotten my ends "dusted," as needed. I dust about 3-4 times per year, and I find that is plenty. I realize now that anything more is excessive and would only derail my hair goals.
The lesson learned: While fresh, bluntly cut ends certainly do look nice, as long as you roller-set your hair, protective style a few times throughout the week, wrap/roll it at night, avoid direct heat, and keep it relatively healthy.... you should be able to avoid most split ends, and a trim with each touch-up becomes unnecessary.
Concluding Remarks
Achieving healthy hair is a process and it does take time. However, if you are reading this article and have reached the end, it means you have decided to take back control of your hair, as I took control in 2005. Congratulations to you! That is the FIRST step, and a very important one.
In this article, I have listed many practices that you can begin to incorporate into your regimen that will ultimately result in thicker, healthier hair. The last, and perhaps most valuable, piece of advice I will give is to have fun and enjoy your hair journey, every step of the way! It is amazing what you will learn, about your hair and also about yourself, as you evolve and grow in this journey.
Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
Overview
Use this mixture immediately after making it, for a relaxing bath soak that will soften and soothe your skin.
 Materials:
3 tablespoons honey
1 cup hot water
1 teaspoon vanilla essential oil
2 tablespoons milk power
Preparation:
Dissolve the honey into the hot water and stir in the powdered milk and vanilla. Spoon mixture into a bath of warm water. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
Full Length Trailer
Ladies, it's been two months since the 40-second teaser trailer of the "Sex and the City" movie came out, and now an extended version has just hit the web! This 2 1/2 minute clip is a bevy of information, and full of exciting clues of what's to come.
*Warning* If you prefer to be taken completely by surprise, I suggest you not watch this. It's quite revealing!
The film comes out May 30 and promises to be as fun, exciting, and sexy as the show over its six-season run!
CLICK HERE to browse fashions from all six seasons of "Sex and the City." CLICK HERE to return to the Home Page.
This silkening cream will leave your hands feeling smooth and smelling delicious.
 Materials:
1/4 cup beeswax
3 tablespoons vanilla essential oil
1/4 cup coconut oil
1/3 cup glycerin
Preparation:
Melt beeswax and coconut oil in a double boiler on low heat until melted. Add glycerin and remaining oil. Stir well on low heat for 5 minutes. Once blended, remove from heat and pour into large glass jar with wide mouth. Allow mixture to set to a thick consistancy before use. Dip fingers into jar and scoop out for application. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
Courtesy of Toast and Tables, by Sarah Dennis
 When I was a little girl I dreamed of the day when I would be getting married. At the time, I fantasized about a white satin dress, string of pearls, ruffles, roses and a tiara. Not anymore! While princess dresses dazzle on some women, they’re far from the only option. There are the dresses with the sleek silhouettes, the edgy runway-inspired numbers or gowns with ethereal fabrics, like chiffon, that flow as freely as a stream.
Whatever dress I choose, I'll no doubt knock’em dead! So why not commission a keepsake of the most beautiful dress you'll ever wear. Few of us are lucky enough to have Giorgio Armani personally design our wedding gown, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have a keepsake sketch like the one he gave Katie Holmes (below).
 I’ve received several emails inquiring about the fashion sketches in my header.
I’m so proud to spotlight one my very best friends on Toast and Table’s today. Brooke Hagel, a graduate of Fashion Institute of Technology in New York City, is one of the most talented fashion illustrators around!
 Submit pictures of yourself in your dress to her and she will create a framed memento in your image.   Brooke knows fashion! She has interned on “Sex and The City” so she lives and breathes details, details, details… she will replicate every detail of your gown – down to the bows, pleats, crystals and lacy embellishments. If you’re interested please contact her at fabulousdoodles@gmail.com   What’s your personal every day style and how do you translate that style into a wedding look you’ll love? This week I spotlighted three registry profiles: romantic, modern and natural. I’m more of a natural girl myself. Your wedding is your day. Make sure it belongs to the “real” you!
Toast and Tables says, “Cheers to the well-dressed table”!
It is a blog dedicated to celebrating what’s on the table – since you can’t redecorate every day, setting the table is a great way to play with what you have and to experiment with different combinations. From porcelain to hand-thrown pottery, stemware to sterling flatware, your grandmother’s china combined with modern accessories, Toast and Tables inspires readers to create a table that reflects who they are.
It is a blog for anyone who loves tableware. A place where you'll be inspired to host black-tie dinners, tea parties, barefoot picnics and everything in between. A guide that celebrates the many facets of personal creativity and encourages you to use it when setting the table for your family and friends. You're invited to discuss your favorite tableware, pass along great gift ideas, share the thrill of the hunt and the joy of the buy. Pull up a chair. Join the conversation. Bask in the delight of surrounding yourself with the things you love.
Sarah Dennis
"Cheers to a well-dressed table"!
This is a very special gift that is personal, quick to make, and inexpensive.
 Materials:
1.7 pints of inexpensive, clear bubble bath
1/2 cup dried lavender
10-15 drops of lavender essential oil
blue food coloring
Preparation:
Pour out your store bought bubble bath and place it into a large glass jug or bottle. Add the essential oils and food coloring to your bubble bath base. Add dried lavender to the bubble bath mixture. Cover and shake gently to blend all ingredients.
For a lovely, decorative effect add a dried or plastic lavender sprig (branch) to the bottle. Secure with a piece of twine. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
The sugar gently exfoliates, the honey moisturizes and soothes, while red wine blends in for a rich, bold aroma.
 Materials:
5 tablespoons raw sugar
5 tablespoons brown sugar
4 teaspoons honey
2 tablespoons red wine
Preparation:
Mix ingredients together to form a sticky paste. Using fingertips, gently massage scrub into your face in circular motions and leave in place 10 minutes. Rinse with cool water. Use a moisturizer thereafter. Refrigerate to store. Keeps indefinitely. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
The antioxidants and nutrients in this mask will nourish, soften, and rejuvenate mature skin.
 Materials:
2 tablespoons olive oil
1 tablespoon lime juice
1 teaspoon honey
Preparation:
Blend ingredients well. Leave mask on for 25 minutes. Rinse well with cool water. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
The cream is enriched with nourishing properties that will leave your skin soft and glowing.
 Materials:
1 pint of cream
2 tablespoons lemon juice
1 egg yolk
Preparation:
Whip together cream and egg yolk. Gently fold lemon juice into mixture. Apply cream to a damp, clean body and allow it to absorb into your body for 30 minutes. Shower in cool water. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
For softer, shinier hair use this nourishing pre-shampoo treatment.
 Materials:
1/2 cup coconut oil
hot towel
Preparation:
Warm the oil and apply it liberally to your hair. Wrap hair in hot, damp towel for 30 minutes. Shampoo and condition as usual. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
Sprinkle into a warm bath for a luxurious soak.
 Materials:
1/2 cup baking soda
1/4 cup epsom salts
1/2 teaspoon rose fragrant oil
Preparation:
Using a blender combine the ingredients until they have formed a fine powder. Store in a decorated glass jar (with small wooden spoon) or salt shaker. Make sure the bath dust remains dry or it will clog up and you won't be able to sprinkle it into your bath. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This 100% edible silkening body cream makes a lovely and personal gift for the romantic interest in your life.
 Materials:
2 oz shea butter
2 teaspoons jojoba oil
1 oz coconut oil
1/4 tsp strawberry flavoring
A few drops of red food coloring
Preparation:
Mix all the ingredients together. Pour cream into small glass jar. Allow butter to set before use. Apply liberally to clean, damp skin.
For a lovely, elegant effect decorate your jar with small silk flowers. Use just a bit of twine to secure your floral arrangement. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
The sugar exfoliates and lifts away dead skin while the lemon cleanses and replenishes.
Materials:
2 tablespoons lemon juice
1/4 cup sugar
olive oil
Preparation:
Combine lemon juice and sugar. Stir well. Start the exfoliation by putting some olive oil on the loofah. Dip the loofah into your lemon mixture. Using circular movements, rub over your elbows. Rinse off with cool water and pat dry. Follow up with a soothing moisturizer.
Repeat this procedure 3-5 times a week until elbows are smooth and lightened. This treatment may be used on the knees as well. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This natural treatment will clarify your hair and also give it a lovely shine.
 Materials:
2 cups of water
2 tablespoons apple cider
2 tablespoons basic shampoo
1 red apple, peeled and de-cored
Preparation:
Place all ingredients into blender and process. Pour mixture into a recycled shampoo bottle and apply liberally to clean, damp hair. Wrap hair in hot, damp towel for 20 minutes. Rinse well. Deep condition as usual. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This short video gives us an inside look at the distortion of beauty in today's culture. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
If you have visited spas and resorts in exotic locales such as the Pacific Rim, Bali, Hawaii, and Tahiti, you've probably seen a facialist select and mash fresh fruit in front of you for a fresh-on-the spot enzyme mask. It's easy to recreate this mask at home. This Balinese mask will leave your face fresh and glowing.
Materials:
2/3 cup fresh papaya, mashed
15 oz. can pure pumpkin
1 egg, beaten
Preparation:
1. Prepare the mask. Cut the papaya in half and scoop out the seeds. Scoop out the papaya fruit and mash it well to eliminate lumps in the mask. Beat the egg until it is frothy. Combine that with the papaya. Add the pumpkin to the egg/papaya mixture and whip together. You  can also mix the ingredients in the blender or a food processor for an extra smooth mask.
2. Prepare your face. Wash with your daily cleanser and remove all residual makeup on your skin. Rinse with warm water. It's very important to have clean skin to ensure you get maximum benefits from the facial.
3. Apply the Mask. Cover your entire face, being careful to avoid the immediate eye area. If you have sensitive skin, test the mixture on your hand before spreading it on your face. You'll feel some tingling as the enzymes in the pumpkin go to work immediately, gently exfoliating your top layer of skin. It works like a scrub without being abrasive to your skin. Leave the mask on for 15 minutes.
4. Rinse off mask. After you've relaxed for 15 minutes it's time to rinse. The mask is fairly thick--head for the kitchen sink. Rinse mask off with cool water.
5. Apply toner & moisturizer.
Homemade spa treatment courtesy of SpaIndex.com: Guide to Day Spas and Stay Spas.
This exfoliation removes dead skin cells, gently firms, and leaves your skin smooth and silky.
 Materials:
1/4 cup fine coffee grounds
1/4 cup sea salt
3 tablespoons milk
loofah sponge
olive oil
Preparation:
Combine coffee grounds, salt, and milk. Stir well. Start the exfoliation by putting some olive oil on the loofah. Dip the loofah into your coffee mixture. Using circular movements, rub over the skin, including the face. Give extra attention to rough areas. Continue to do this until your body is covered. Rinse off in a cool shower and pat dry. Follow up with a soothing moisturizer. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This tropical exfoliation removes dead skin cells, gently firms, and leaves your skin smooth and silky.
 Materials:
1 mango chopped
1/4 cup instant oats
1 cup raw sugar
1 tablespoon sweet almond oil
4 drops orange essential oil
1 tablespoon pineapple juice
loofah sponge
Preparation:
Place all ingredients (except essential oils) into a blender and blend into a thick paste. Remove and fold in essential oils. Dip the loofah into your mango mixture. Using circular movements, rub over the skin, including the face. Give extra attention to rough areas. Continue to do this until your body is covered. Rinse off in a cool shower and pat dry. Follow up with a soothing moisturizer. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This rejuvenating mask nourishes, tightens pores, and helps slough off dead skin cells to reveal fresher skin.
 Materials:
1/2 cup coarsely chopped peeled cucumber
1/2 cup coarsely chopped peeled avocado
1 egg white
2 teaspoons powdered milk
Preparation:
Place all ingredients into blender and blend until smooth. Refrigerate for 30 minutes, then apply to face and neck. Leave the mask in place for 30 minutes, then rinse with warm water. Splash cool water on after that. Gently pat dry. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This strawberry moisturizing body stick is almost good enough to eat.
 Materials:
4 oz sweet almond oil
4 oz beeswax
4 oz cocoa butter
2 teaspoons strawberry fragrance oil
Preparation:
Melt the beeswax and cocoa butter in a double boiler on low heat until melted. Remove from heat and, once mixture has cooled slightly, add oils. Pour into candy bar molds or other narrow container suitable for a stick-like bar. (The clear, plastic Crisco shortening stick tubs work well). Allow bars to set before use. To use: Rub bar over your entire body to moisturize. Bar will melt into your skin from the heat of your body. Store remaining bars in the refrigerator. Bars keep indefinitely. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
By Jane Ridley
Published Thursday, February 7th 2008
There’s nothing more infuriating than showing up for a date, only for him to wrinkle his nose and dis your outfit - but men and women tend to have very different ideas about what looks good and what doesn’t.
We asked style expert Sarah Perpich, a personal shopper at Henri Bendel in Manhattan, to pick three Valentine’s looks for three different New York City women - clothes that showcase the hottest trends for spring and each woman’s personality.
Then we asked each woman’s other half to give an honest opinion.
Mona Thabet, 23, a newspaper circulation representative, from Bensonhurst, Brooklyn, has been dating Stennie Hall, 32, a retail services manager, of nearby Sheepshead, since they met at work five years ago. Mona says: “I like wearing colorful, risque outfits as long as they’re comfortable, but Stennie doesn’t like me going out with my girlfriends in anything revealing. It’s fine if I’m with him, however. Otherwise, he would probably tape a jacket around me! My favorite is the cute top and pants, because they’d look great to go dancing in.” Read on to see what Stennie thinks of the outfits.
 Stennie’s verdict: COCKTAIL DRESS: “Wow! That’s a definite head-turner, and I love it because it shows off Mona’s whole physique. I’d be proud to have her on my arm wearing a dress like that. I wouldn’t have a problem if she wore it out with me. But, if she’s alone, I’d worry because I don’t think other people would be respecting her personality.” Rating: 9/10
Stennie’s verdict: SASSY SKIRT SUIT: “It’s very neat and presentable, and my mom would definitely approve. It’s a nice Valentine’s outfit, and I love the red. But the blouse doesn’t do much for her figure because it’s too baggy.” Rating 6/10
Stennie’s verdict: CASUAL CHIC: “It looks like she is going to work and is way too casual for a Valentine’s date. The bagginess of the top takes the sexy right out of it, and the pants are too business-casual.” Rating: 5/10
Christine Taylor, 37, a freelance photographer, lives with boyfriend James Kloiber, 30, an art director, on Manhattan’s upper East Side. They met online three years ago. Christine says: “I always tend to wear black, brown and gray because they’re versatile and don’t attract a lot of attention. Luckily, James takes an interest in what I wear and has a good sense of style. His favorite outfit will probably be the pink dress because he often wishes I would show off my figure more. I’d love it worn by someone else, but it’s too risque for my tastes. I prefer the pants and top because they’re comfortable and sexy.”
 James’ verdict: COCKTAIL DRESS: “It looks a little hoochie and doesn’t really flatter her curves, although it shows off Christine’s tattoos very nicely. I like it, but she could definitely use a bra.” Rating: 7/10
James’ verdict: SASSY SKIRT SUIT: “It makes her look a lot older than she is and like a politician’s wife. The skirt’s a great shape and fit, but the jacket is boxy. I don’t like the print blouse with the red color, as it looks dated.” Rating: 7/10.
James’ verdict: CASUAL CHIC: “I like the drape over the shoulders and the way the top comes together at the waist. The pants are flattering and look modern. This is the best out of the three because it’s a lot classier.” Rating: 9/10.
Shayna Stoyko, 34, a copy editor from Brooklyn Heights, has been dating TV producer Howard Sebold (above), 44, from Park Slope, Brooklyn, since last April after meeting him on Match.com. Shayna says: “I am used to dressing to look cute rather than overtly sexy because I’m more of an observer than a “look at me” kind of person. Howard doesn’t pay huge attention to my sense of style but compliments me a lot, which is great. He’ll like the pants and top because, like me, he’ll think they’re jazzy, funky and fabulous.”
 Howard’s verdict: COCKTAIL DRESS: “She would never wear something that low-cut, but it’d be great if she did! It shows off her figure beautifully, although coral isn’t my favorite color, and I’d prefer it in blue from the same palette. It’s very sexy and my jaw would hit the floor if she showed up like this.” Rating: 8/10
Howard’s verdict: SASSY SKIRT SUIT: “This has an office vibe and, despite the funky jacket, is not very sexy. The animal-print blouse reminds me of Bon Jovi and the ’80s-style pussy bow is a no-no for me. It looks like she came straight to the date from work.” Rating: 7/10
Howard’s verdict: CASUAL CHIC: “Shayna looks great in terms of urban sophistication. It’s very sophisticated and nothing like I’ve seen her wear before. The top is flattering but reminds me a little of a Mexican poncho. It’s more suited for lunch than a nighttime date, but very cute.” Rating: 8/10
THE OUTFITS:
COCKTAIL DRESS: Herve Leger deep V bondage dress, $1,258. Sarah Perpich says: “I call this the sexy, magic bondage dress because it’s like scubawear that sucks in the butt, pushes up the boobs and looks great on practically everyone. Baby pink and lilac are very big this season.”
SASSY SKIRT SUIT: Diane von Furstenberg jacket, $425; Michael Kors leopard-print shirt, $698; Michael Kors pencil skirt, $498. Perpich says: “I love the cosmopolitan working-women’s look, and the pencil skirt is as huge for spring as it was for fall. The chiffon blouse with tie gives a feminine, frilly feel and the red jacket adds sophistication, especially for Valentine’s.”
CASUAL CHIC: Missoni batwing top, $838; Diane von Furstenberg Gilligan pants, $275 Perpich says: “Wide-leg high-rise pants continue to be big, and navy is always big for spring. I loved to play with the volume around the shoulder area of the Missoni top because it’s very fancy and flirty.”
CREDITS Outfits available at Henri Bendel, 712 Fifth Ave., at 56th St., (212) 247-1100. Styling by Sarah Perpich, makeup by Mally Beauty at Henri Bendel. Hair by Hana, Giovanni and Gwen at Frederic Fekkai on the fourth floor of the Henri Bendel store, (212) 753-9500.
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Enjoy pretty, shining lip with this sweet, natural gloss.
Materials:
6 teaspoons jojoba oil
1 teaspoon aloe vera oil
3 teaspoons beeswax
5 drops tangarine flavor oil
5 drops of vanilla essential oil
3 drops orange food coloring
Preparation:
Melt the oils and beeswax in a double boiler on low heat until the wax is melted. Remove from the heat and, while the mix is still hot, add remaining ingredients. Stir well.
Pour hot mixture into small containers that have been sterilized. Allow balm to set before use. Makes 3-4 small pots of balm. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This easy mask promotes clear, radiant skin and helps to prevent blemishes.
Materials:
1/2 cucumber, peeled
1 tablespoon instant nonfat dry milk
1 tablespoon lemon juice
1 teaspoon plain yogurt
splash of rosewater
Preparation:
Place the ingredients into a blender and blend until smooth. Apply to face and leave on for 20 minutes, then rinse thoroughly. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This exfoliation removes dead skin cells, gently firms, and leaves your skin smooth and silky.
 Materials:
1 lb glycerin soap base
2 tablespoons finely ground almonds
1 teaspoon sweet almond oil
loofah sponge
Preparation:
Melt glycerin soap base on medium heat. Once it is simmering remove from heat and let it cool. Add remaining ingredients and stir until blended. Dip the loofah into your almond mixture. Using circular movements rub over the skin. Give extra attention to rough areas. Continue to do this until your body is covered. Rinse off in a cool shower and pat dry. Follow up with a soothing moisturizer. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
Pineapple helps to remove dead skin cells as well as acting as an anti-inflammatory to soothe irritated skin.
 Materials:
1/2 can pineapple chunks (drained)
4 tablespoons olive oil
Preparation:
Using a blender, blend olive oil and pineapple into a fine pulp. Apply to the face and leave it on for 25 minutes. Rinse well with cool water. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
A Natural Look
This tutorial will show you how to achieve a basic, natural face. This is a look that may be worn to school, work, or play…. on any given day!
Application Time: 15 Minutes
Before We Begin:
It is imperative that you start with a clean, moisturized face. I wash my face using Neutrogena Oil Free Acne Wash.
Once I pat dry, I smooth a thin layer of Neutrogena Advanced Solutions Facial Peel over my face and neck, avoiding the eye area. This gives my skin a delicious tingling sensation!
I leave the mask on for about 8 minutes. Then, using wet fingertips, I gently massage away the mask. I follow up by rinsing and then patting dry. I use this mask twice a week. The result is smoother, tighter, exfoliated skin.
*Be sure to wear a satin scarf and/or plastic cap to prevent the mask from getting into your hair.*
At this point I use my Neutrogena Oil-Free Moisturizer with SPF 15. It’s a lightweight, non-greasy formula that keeps my skin moisturized while also protecting it from sun damage.
While I have oily to regular skin, you must choose your moisturizer based on your own skin’s needs.
*Contrary to popular belief, a moisturizer does not moisturize your skin! It seals in your existing moisture. So be certain that your face is still slightly damp before using your moisturizer.*
Assemble Your Tools:
At this time I gather together my tools. I like to have everything spread out around me and easily assessable while I work.
I use the 23-piece professional makeup brush set by J.C. Nadia Paris.
However, you do not need a full, professional makeup set, so do not go out and spend a fortune on this if you do not already own one. As long as you have the following 8 basic brushes you will be fine:
1. The Shader Brush has really firm fibers and will be used for applying concealer to your trouble areas.
2. The Small Angled Brow Brush will be used to apply color beneath the lower rim of your eye.
3. The Medium Angled Brush will be used to apply color along the brow bone.
4. The Flat Definer Brush applies eye color in one stroke and will be used on your eyelid.
5. The Large Powder Brush has softer hair and will be used to flawlessly dust powder onto your skin.
6. The Fluff Brush is for the application of eyes shadow in the crease of your eye.
7. The Blending Brush is designed for the application/blending of your eye shadows.
8. The Foundation Brush will be used for applying and blending your foundation.
*The eight brushes I have selected are by no means the “standard” set used by makeup artists. These brushes happen to be my personal favorite and the minimum required to achieve this basic, natural face. You are welcome (and encouraged) to experiment with various other brushes to find what works for you.*
9. While I personally prefer to use a Foundation Brush, you may opt to use a disposable, latex wedge sponge to apply your foundation. The advantage is that these wedges are very inexpensive, and you can sometimes get them free by asking for samples at any makeup counter.
10. Finally, you will need an eyelash curler. I use the Salon Plus Deluxe Eyelash Curler.
Curling your eyelashes will make your eyes appear wider and brighter. Metal eyelash curlers are better than plastic. For best results, you'll want to gently heat the curler with a blow-dryer for no more than 5 seconds.
*The eyelash curler is optional. A good mascara will both lengthen and separate your eyelashes, and essentially eliminates the need for an eyelash curler.*
Other Essential Tools:
Clean Cotton Balls
Tissues
Brush Cleaner
Eye Pencil Sharpener
Now We’re Ready To Get Started:
Now that we have a clean canvas, use your Shader Brush to conceal your dark under-eye circles, and any other areas of the face with significant blemishing or scarring. In my case, I have several areas around the cheek with faint acne scarring as well as a narrow scar above my cheekbone.
I use MAC Studio Finish SPF 35 concealer in # NC42.
For a daytime look, I use light eye shadow colors. Today my eye shadows of choice are from by MAC:
Sushi Flower (soft pink)
Wishful (beige)
Bitter (pale green)
Parfait Amour (lavender)
*It is best that you apply your eye color before the foundation, as some of the eye shadow may spill onto your face. This way you can easily wipe away the spilled shadow without ruining your foundation.*
Dab a bit of the Studio Finish concealer onto your finger or Shader Brush. Close your eye and apply a very thin layer of concealer over the entire eyelid, from brow to lash line. This provides a base that will reveal the eye shadow’s true colors. It also gives the shadow something to cling on to, allowing your colors to remain fresh and vibrant throughout the day.
You are now ready to apply your eye color!
Use your Small Angle Brush and apply Wistful on your upper brow bone. Sweep the brush lightly over the area from the socket line of your eyelid to just below the eyebrow.
Use your Flat Definer Brush and, closing your eye, sweep Bitter generously over both lower eyelids and into the socket line.
Use your Fluff Brush and contour the crease of your eyelid with Sushi Flower.
Take a (clean) Fluff Brush and generously dust Parfait Amour around the outer corners of your eyes, near your tear ducts.
Blend your colors by stroking the lid gently with your Blending Brush. Do not use your finger to blend, as you could wipe off the shadow entirely! The colors of your eye shadow should be flowing harmoniously from one shade to the other upon your lids.
*Applying eye color can be tricky in the beginning. Just take your time and remember that proper blending is the key.*
Use a white eyeliner and generously line the lower inside rim of your eyes. This will brighten your eyes and make them appear larger than they actually are.
Use black or dark brown liner (depending on your complexion) to line the lower rim of your eyes. Then carefully line right above the eyelashes. I use Smolder Eye Kohl by MAC. While I prefer to use an eye pencil, you may opt to use a liquid liner.
*I love the Smolder Eye Kohl, because I am able to achieve the same silky smooth matte finish that a liquid liner provides, but with maximum control.*
Take your time and use a steady, even stroke. Make sure the line is thin. The look we are trying to achieve is a very simple, clean look.
Finally, use your Medium Angle Brush to apply Bitter eye shadow underneath the eye liner on your lower rim.
For this natural, daytime look I do not darken or fill in my eyebrows with a brow pencil. This lends itself to a more dramatic look than I am going for today.
At this time take your eyelash curler and curl your lashes. If you have never used an eyelash curler do not worry, as this is very easy to do. Open the curler, clamp your lashes near the roots, and hold for 10-30 seconds.
*Never curl your lashes after you apply your mascara—as the mascara dries, lashes can stick to the curler and be torn from the roots.*
I use MAC Zoom Lash Mascara. I love this particular mascara because it gives me long, voluminous, black lashes that never clump or flake.
Apply black mascara on your top and bottom lashes. This will open up your eyes.
You are now ready to apply your foundation. I use MAC Studio Tech in # NC45 for a full coverage, natural matte look.
*Whenever possible test your foundation on your wrist in the drugstore, or have a makeup consultant try this color on you, to make sure you purchase the right shade.*
Apply the foundation in upward, gentle massaging strokes. Remember to get the jaw line and neck—you don’t want your face one color and your neck another!
Blending can sometimes be tricky, so make sure you use sufficiently bright lighting. You will ultimately seal your foundation in with loose powder, but we will skip that step for now and move on to our lips.
*Your foundation should leave you with a fresh, flawless finish—never a heavy, porcelain doll look.*
Now we apply our lip color!
I use Mary Kay Signature Lip Liner in Plum.
Next I apply Jazz-Y-Razz Pro Longwear Lustre by MAC. This is a two-step application of color plus a glossy, transparent top coat. I apply the color and then let that dry. I use this as my base coat, as it is a longwearing lip color that I know will last throughout the day.
*Try to avoid talking and/or moving your lips excessively while the color coat is drying, or you will crack the lip color and have an unattractive finish.*
After this initial coat, I use Varneesh Lip Lacquer by MAC. This is a pretty, pale pink color that adds just the opaque stain that I need. After applying my lip lacquer, I finish with the transparent, top coat by Jazz-Y-Razz. This adds a wonderful, shiny finish.
The result: rich, lustrous, glossy, and moisturized lips!
*Be sure to blend your lip liner and lip color properly. You should never see a defined line around your lips!*
I am now ready to use Select Sheer Loose Powder # NC45 by MAC.
Using your Large Powder Brush, generously dust on your loose powder. Stroke your face gently to cover all areas evenly. This will set your foundation for several hours. *Your foundation must be set in order to last throughout the day.*
I like applying blush last. I use Cover Girl Cheekers Blush in Rose Silk. The blush you choose should blend with the lip color you are wearing (i.e., rose colored lips, with rose colored blush). However, as long as it is in the same family of shades, they do not need to be an exact match.
*Blush is optional. For a daytime look I do not always use or recommend it. It depends entirely on my mood that day! *smile**
Use a clean Large Powder Brush for the application of your blush, as it will make for a softer and more professional look than the brush that comes with the blush. Be sure to to tap off the excess blush from your brush before applying it to your face.
Look in the mirror and smile. Now apply your blush on the apple of your cheek and gently brush up your cheekbone toward your hairline in a sweeping motion.
If you accidentally apply too much blush use a fresh cotton ball or tissue to gently wipe off the excess. Brushing more loose powder over the blush will also tone it down.
*If you have a fuller face, focus your blush at the outside of your face near your hairline. For those with high cheekbones, concentrate blush in the center of your face to accentuate your bones.*
You are now finished, look amazing, and you’re ready to hit the town and turn some heads!
Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
Use this refreshing cucumber eye mask to tighten under-eye skin and reduce puffiness.
Materials:
2 teaspoons grated cucumber
1 tablespoon powdered milk
1 teaspoon honey
Preparation:
Combine the ingredients to form a paste. Soak cloth makeup or cotton swabs with mixture and place them over closed eyes. Leave on for 10 minutes. Rinse with cool water. Store mixture in refrigerator. Keeps for 2-3 days. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This makes a lovely, inexpensive gift.
 Materials:
2 cups powdered milk
1 cup cornstarch
10 drops vanilla essential oil
Preparation:
Mix the milk and cornstarch with a wire whisk until well blended. Fold in the oil. Spoon into a glass jar. Decorate your jar with small silk flowers. Use just a bit of twine to secure your floral arrangement. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This makes a lovely, inexpensive gift.
Materials:
1 cup Epsom salts
5 drops lavender food coloring
1 tablespoon coconut oil
5 drops of pineapple fragrant oil
5 drops of coconut fragrant oil
Preparation:
Combine all the ingredients and mix well. Toss the mixture repeatedly in order to color the salt thoroughly.
Add your bath salts to a decorative jar and place a small wooden spoon inside. Decorate your jar with small silk flowers. Use just a bit of twine to secure your floral arrangement. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
Dry skin exfoliator
Materials:
1/4 cup almonds
1/8 teaspoon mayonnaise
Preparation:
Grind almonds in blender until they form fine almond meal. Whirl in mayonnaise. Using fingertips, gently massage scrub into your face in circular motions and leave in place 10 minutes. Rinse with cool water. Use a toner thereafter. Refrigerate to store. Keeps for 2-3 weeks.
Homemade spa treatment courtesy of SpaIndex.com: Guide to Day Spas and Stay Spas.
Cold cream was first developed by Galen, a 2nd century Greek physician. Today it is the beauty staple of mothers and glamour queens everywhere. This recipe will help clean deep down into your pores and remove stubborn makeup and impurities. It will leave oil or combination skin feeling fresh and revitalized.
Materials:
1 ounce grated beeswax or beeswax pellets
6 tablespoons light mineral oil
4 tablespoons distilled water
1 teaspoon borax
2-3 drops of your favorite essential oil
Preparation:
In a double boiler or clean glass dish in a microwave, combine beeswax and mineral oil. Gently heat and stir until melted and well blended. While melting, dissolve your borax in the distilled water and heat it gently--do not boil. Remove both pans or dishes from the heat source, and, stirring constantly, slowly drizzle the distilled water and borax solution into your wax and oil solution. When fully combined, begin to beat vigorously until it has cooled. Add your essential oil and continue to beat until your cream is light and airy, with a brilliant white sheen. Store in the refrigerator, in clean glass jars. You cream will keep for approximately 4-6 weeks.
Homemade spa treatment courtesy of SpaIndex.com: Guide to Day Spas and Stay Spas.
Natural hydrating cream that will stimulate and rejuvenate mature skin.
 Materials:
1 teaspoon apple juice
1 teaspoon lemon juice
1 teaspoon lime juice
2 tablespoons buttermilk
1 tablespoon rosemary leaves
3 seedless grapes
1/4 pear
2 egg whites
Preparation:
Blend all ingredients in a blender on medium speed for 30 seconds. Using a cotton ball, dab mixture on areas around the eyes and wherever wrinkles have developed. Let dry, then rinse with warm water. Use no more than 3 times a week. Follow with a moisturizer. Cover and refrigerate immediately. Keeps for 4 days.
Homemade spa treatments courtesy of SpaIndex.com: Guide to Day Spas and Stay Spas.
Pineapple contains bromeliad, a protein-digestive enzyme which helps rid the skin of dead cells and dirt. It also counteracts histamines, has anti-inflammatory properties, and is a mild astringent.
 Materials:
4 large pineapple chunks or 1/2 cup canned, drained pineapple
3 tablespoons olive oil
Preparation:
In a blender, combine pineapple chunks and olive oil. Blend until almost smooth. Apply mixture to face with fingertips and leave on for 15 minutes. Rinse face with warm water and pat dry.
Homemade spa treatment courtesy of SpaIndex.com: Guide to Day Spas and Stay Spas.
This silkening cream will leave your hands feeling smooth and smelling delicious.
 Materials:
1 whole cucumber, peeled
1/2 oz white paraffin
2 oz sweet almond oil
Preparation:
Cut the cucumber into chunks and puree in blender. Strain pulp through a strainer lined with cheesecloth. Discard seeds. Melt wax in a double boiler on low heat until melted. Remove from heat and slowly add the oil, stirring gently. Add strained cucumber and blend thoroughly. Pour into large glass jar with wide mouth. Allow mixture to set to a thick consistancy before use. Stir mixture once or twice until cool. Dip fingers into jar and scoop out for application. Cream keeps for 60 days in refrigerator. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This shampoo will leave your hair full of shine and full of body.
 Materials:
1 cup of beer (any kind)
1 cup of simple shampoo
Preparation:
Simmer beer in a sauce pan over medium heat for 20 minutes. Let it cool to room temperature. Add shampoo to the sauce pan. Pour mixture into a recycled shampoo bottle or empty jar. Shake well before using. Shampoo hair then deep condition with heat for 20 minutes. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
Dry skin exfoliator
 Materials:
2 tablespoons rolled oats (not instant)
2 tablespoons plain yoghurt
2 tablespoons honey
Preparation:
Combine all ingredients and stir until well blended. Using fingertips, gently massage scrub into your face in circular motions and leave in place 10 minutes. Rinse with cool water. Use a moisturizer thereafter. Refrigerate to store. Keeps for 5-6 days. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This fruity mask will leave your hair nourished, with a beautiful healthy shine.
 Materials:
1/2 banana
1/4 avocado
1/4 honey dew melon
1 tablespoon coconut oil
2 tablespoons plain yoghurt
Preparation:
Using blender, blend all ingredients together until smooth. Apply to clean, damp hair. Wrap hair in hot, damp towel for 30 minutes. Rinse with cool water. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This chocolate moisturizing body stick is almost good enough to eat.
Materials:
4 oz sweet almond oil
4 oz beeswax
4 oz cocoa butter
2 teaspoons chocolate fragrance
 Preparation:
Melt the beeswax and cocoa butter in a double boiler on low heat until melted. Remove from heat and, once mixture has cooled slightly, add oils. Pour into candy bar molds or other narrow container suitable for a stick-like bar. (The clear, plastic Crisco shortening stick tubs work well). Allow bars to set before use. To use: Rub bar over your entire body to moisturize. Bar will melt into your skin from the heat of your body. Store remaining bars in the refrigerator. Bars keep indefinitely.
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This gentle exfoliator is perfect for mature skin. The banana nourishes and leaves the skin feeling soft and glowing.
 Materials:
1/2 cup fine oatmeal
1 teaspoon mashed banana
2 tablespoons yoghurt
pinch of ground cinnamon
Preparation:
Mix the ingredients together to form a paste. Apply to clean, damp face in a soft, circular motion. Rinse face with cool water and follow up with a moisturizer. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This easy masked, used once or twice monthly, will both deep clean and exfoliate your face. It is particularly beneficial for oily skin.
 Materials:
1 cup oatmeal
1 cup blueberries
1 tablespoon honey
5-6 almonds, whole
Preparation: Puree all ingredients in a blender until finely blended. Spread mixture over your face, and allow to set and dry (10-15 minutes). Rinse with warm water, and splash your skin with cool water or toner. This mask be may stored in your refrigerator for up to one week, covered tightly.
Homemade spa treatment courtesy of SpaIndex.com: Guide to Day Spas and Stay Spas.
This mask is recommended for dry skin. It is especially soothing on a sunburn.
Materials:
1 egg
1/2 cup coconut oil
1 tablespoon honey
Preparation:
Beat the egg in a small bowl until frothy and well-mixed. Slowly add the liquid coconut oil and honey, beating until your mask is the consistency of mayonnaise. Take an empty toilet tissue roll and set it on end in a clean bowl. Spoon mixture into the cardboard toilet paper roll (or consider using an empty deoderant container). Place tube, in the bowl, in the freezer overnight.
To use: Peel away just the top 1/4 inch of the cardboard roll and smooth the frozen stick over your face. Leave your mask on for 5 to 10 minutes, then rinse off with warm water.
Cover the cream stick with plastic wrap and keep frozen between uses. Keeps indefinitely.
Homemade spa treatment courtesy of SpaIndex.com: Guide to Day Spas and Stay Spas.
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Sprinkle into a warm bath for a luxurious soak.
Materials:
1/2 cup baking soda
1/4 cup epsom salts
1/2 teaspoon lavender fragrant oil
1/2 teaspoon dried lavender flowers
Preparation:
Using a blender combine the ingredients until they have formed a fine powder. Store in a decorated glass jar (with small wooden spoon) or salt shaker. Make sure the bath dust remains dry or it will clog up and you won't be able to sprinkle it into your bath. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
Have you ever visited a day spa and spent $150 + gratuity on a hand treatment, like the Paraffin Wax or Milk and Honey Massage? Perhaps your husband or girlfriend gave you a spa package for your birthday, or maybe you saved up and decided to treat yourself.
The reality is that, for many of us, a trip to the spa is a luxury reserved exclusively for special occasions. However, at Girly Home Webzine® we don't believe in pampering only on "special occasions!"
Today I share my version of the Hydrating Hand Treatment. This is a nourishing treatment for the hands and cuticles. And the best part... it can be done at home, in your own kitchen!
Hydrating Treatment for the Hands
This tutorial will show you how to achieve soft, conditioned hands and cuticles. This treatment is great for moisturizing dry hands due to sunburn or dehydrated skin in the winter.
Application Time: 45 Minutes
Before We Begin:
Fill the kitchen sink about halfway up with sudsy dishwater. Temperature should be as warm as you can tolerate.
I use the Thymes Lavender Bergamot Dishwashing Liquid, which has nourishing ingredients that counter hard city water, but is gentle enough that it doesn’t irritate my sensitive skin. An additional bonus is that it smells wonderful, with calming aromas of lavender, Italian bergamot, clover and jasmine.
*If you have a favorite liquid detergent that you use to do the dishes that is fine, but do make certain that it is mild and soft on the hands.*
Assemble Your Tools:
At this time I gather together my tools. I like to have everything spread out around me and easily assessable while I work.
- Select an occlusive moisturizing lotion. An occlusive moisturizer has an ointment or cream base rather than the thinner lotion base. There are numerous lotions on the market and I encourage you to do your research and select the one best for you. If possible use a lotion with a pH of 5.5, which is the same as your skin, in order to maintain its natural balance.
Almond Coconut Milk Soufflé Body Crème by Laura Mercier = This rich, delectable body crème smells like a warm summer day. It is a blend of crisp almond with relaxing coconut. The Almond Coconut Milk Soufflé Body Crème smoothes and moisturizes your skin with emollient sweet almond protein, macadamia nut oil, and shea butter. As you apply this rich, creamy and wonderfully fragrant lotion, its natural healing ingredients leaves your skin soft, supple and hydrated.
Crème Brulée by The Sanctuary = This whipped, ultra-rich cream combines advanced skin care techniques with sweet aromas reminiscent of French patisseries. Extracts of vanilla bean, cinnamon, coffee bean, cocoa and nutmeg have been "baked" into this formula. This hydrating body cream nourishes and softens the skin with brown sugar, caramel, Vitamin E, panthenol, and extracts of mango, orange and patchouli.
*The Crème Brulée hand cream was given to me by a girlfriend who lives in London. I’m not sure that this lotion is available in the United States, as I’ve since only found it via UK websites.*
Green Tea & Lime Leaf Hydrating Lotion by Biotone = This is a light, easily absorbed lotion that contains aromatic botanical extracts that promote healthier skin. It contains apricot and wheat amino acids for deep hydration, beta glucan for repair and protection, anti-oxidant Vitamin E, and the natural oils of Jojoba, Avocado, Peach and Sunflower to replenish, nourish, and soften the skin. This lotion has aromas of green tea, lime leaf, bamboo, and lemongrass.
Milk & Honey Butter Blend by Cuccio Naturalé = This super sweet blend of creamy milk and honey extract is a non-oily, intense hydrating treatment for silky smooth skin. Honey extract, a natural humectant, adds vital nutrients and gives this luxurious blend all the natural moisturizers and soothing properties you need for soft, supple skin. The Milk & Honey Butter Blend contains apricot and wheat amino acids for deep hydration, beta glucan for repair and protection, anti-oxidant Vitamin E, and the natural oils of jojoba, avocado, peach and sunflower to replenish, nourish, and soften the skin. This lotion has aromas of honey and clover blossom.
Tourmaline Charged Hydrating Creme by Aveda = This is a finely-powdered tourmaline, a naturally energizing mineral, mixed with marine and plant extracts and 11 powerful anti-oxidants. The Tourmaline Charged Hydrating Creme protects your skin from harsh environmental influences and infuses visible life and radiance into your skin. This rich cream leaves your skin soft, radiant and optimally hydrated with meadowfoam seed oil, tourmaline, Vitamin A, Vitamin C, and Vitamin E.
2. Select a pair of durable latex gloves. I like the Cheetah Pattern Cuffs in Pink by Casabella. They're cute, flirty, and retro! However, any latex multi-purpose gloves will do. Try to avoid spending money if you don't have to.
3. Finally, you will need a kitchen timer. I use the KitchenAid Cook for the Cure® Timer.
Now We’re Ready To Get Started:
Soak your hands in your prepared [warm to hot] dishwater for 15 minutes. That will give your skin time to absorb the much-needed water.
* The most important treatment for dry skin is to put water back in it. Many people think that water is bad for their dry hands. However, soaking hands in water can be an effective way to fight the dry skin that plagues many people.*
Now you must seal in the absorbed water with a thick layer of moisturizer. Remove your hands from the water. Pat your skin dry and liberally apply lotion all over your hands and onto your wrists.
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*Moisturizer is ten times more effective when applied to skin that has been soaked in water. The moisturizer can soak more deeply into the top layer of skin, creating a more effective barrier against water loss.*
Set your timer for 30 minutes.
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Slip on your latex cleaning gloves. Pull them up as far as they'll go. The gloves provide insulation of heat, and the heat from the water gives you a deep lotion treatment.
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Now do the dishes as you normally would. Relax and take your time. It's important for your gloved hands to remain immersed in the warm water for a minimum of 30 minutes.
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*This moisturizing treatment for your hands is also beneficial to your fingernails and cuticles. Your cuticles will be soft enough that you can use a cuticle tool to gently push them back and keep them clean and even.*
When you are finished washing all of the dishes, drain the water out of the sink, rinse out your sponge or dishcloth, and rinse any soap suds or debris down the drain. Gently slip off your gloves and rinse those out in the sink as well. Now rinse your hands in cool water.
*Cold water constricts blood vessels and closes your pores, producing a toning effect.*
I would recommend performing the Hydrating Hand Treatment at night just before bed. You are unlikely to further dry out or irritate your skin while sleeping. That allows moisture to be more thoroughly absorbed into your skin.
*For especially severe cases of dry skin, light silk gloves may be worn at night to further reduce water loss through the skin.*
You are now finished and your hands feel like pure silk! Repeat this treatment two or three times per week to achieve soft, younger looking hands.
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Moisturize your body with this rich, creamy butter that will leave your skin soft and supple.
 Materials:
2 oz shea butter
2 teaspoons sweet almond oil
1 oz coconut oil
1/4 teaspoon lavender essential oil
A few drops of blue food coloring
Preparation:
Mix all the ingredients together. Pour cream into small glass jar. Allow butter to set before use. Apply liberally to clean, damp skin.
For a lovely, decorative effect add a dried or even plastic lavender sprig (branch) to the bottle. Use just a bit of twine to secure. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
Buttermilk has a toning effect that brightens the skin. This rinse will leave your face with a lovely glow.
 Materials:
5 strawberries
3 teaspoons honey
1/2 cup buttermilk
Preparation:
Using a blender, blend ingredients until smooth. Spread gently over your face and neck, and leave in place 20 minutes. Rinse with cool water and follow with a moisturizer. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
Feel tension drift away as you soak in this green tea bath. Leaves skin soft and senses balanced with the calming aromas of green tea and chamomile.
 Materials:
1 cup green tea leaves
1/4 cup parsley
1/8 cup chamomile flowers
4 tbs dried orange peel
8 drops bergamot essential oil
5 drops chamomile essential oil
3 drops green tea fragrance
6-8 small muslim drawstring bags or sealable tea bags
Preparation:
Mix all the ingredients together in a bowl. Spoon mixture into the bags and draw or tie closed with a ribbon.
Place two tea bags into a bath of warm water to enjoy this uplifting detoxing soak. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This sweet, natural peel gently exfoliates the skin, leaving it soft, dewey, and moisturized.
 Materials:
1/4 cup whole milk
2 teaspoons lemon juice
1 teaspoon warmed honey
Preparation:
Combine all ingredients together. Apply to the face and allow to set for 30 minutes. Peel off and rinse with cool water. Store in the refrigerator for 2-3 days. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
Turn a simple bubble bath into a luxurious bottle of bubbles.
 Materials:
1.7 pints of inexpensive, clear bubble bath
1/2 cup of rose petals
10-15 drops of rose essential oil
red food coloring
Preparation:
Pour out your store bought bubble bath and place it into a large glass jug or bottle. Add the essential oils and food coloring to your bubble bath base. Add whole rose petals to the bubble bath mixture. Cover and shake gently to blend all ingredients. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This rich finishing mask will leave your hair soft, shiny, and replenished.
Materials:
4 tablespoons mayonnaise
2 tablespoons olive oil
1 tablespoon coconut oil
1 large egg
1 tablespoon honey
Preparation:
Mix all ingredients together and pour into recycled shampoo bottle. Cap tightly and shake well until blended. Apply mask liberally to clean, damp hair. Wrap hair in hot, damp towel for 30 minutes. Rinse with cool water. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
The honey in this cleanser will replenish the skin, leaving your face soft and dewey.
 Materials:
2 tablespoons honey
1 tablespoon natural yoghurt
Preparation:
Mix all the ingredients together. Apply to the face in a circular motion with a cotton ball or cloth makeup pad. Wipe clean with a cool, damp towel. Follow with a moisturizer. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
Apple Toner is an excellent substitute for rubbing alcohol. Witch hazel is a gentle astringent, apple cider vinegar helps restore your skin's natural ph balance, and lavender soothes sensitive skin.
Materials:
2/3 cup witch hazel
1/3 cup apple cider vinegar
1 tablespoon lavender essential oil
Preparation:
Combine witch hazel, apple cider vinegar, and several drops of essential oil. Pour mixture into a clean bottle. Shake bottle well before using. Dampen a cotton ball or pad saturated with your toner, and swab over face.
Homemade spa treatment courtesy of SpaIndex.com: Guide to Day Spas and Stay Spas.
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Rose-hip oil is very effective in tightening the skin due to its high content of fatty acids.
Materials:
2 tablespoons jojoba oil
1 teaspoon castor oil
2 teaspoons rose-hip oil
Preparation:
Mix all the ingredients together. Lightly dab a small amount of oil under the eye and leave on for 20 minutes. Rinse with cool water. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
Henna is a natural plant coloring for the hair, made from the powdered leaves of a desert shrub plant called Lawsonia. This plant is dried and ground into a powder. Henna contains hannatannic acid which, when mixed with hot water, will coat the hair strands. It seals in oils and tightens the hair cuticle, thickening the strands and giving your hair a rich, healthy shine.
 Contrary to belief, Henna has no lightening action, so the shade that you achieve will depend on your hair color. It is applied as a mud and washed out after 1 to 3 hours. Its effects will last up to 3 months. My hair has very fine and extremely soft strands, so Henna has been wonderful for me in terms of giving my hair additional thickness and volume.
What Type of Henna Should You Buy?
I’ve been asked by several people where I find my Henna. I order my Henna from Mehndiskinart.com. It is "body art quality" Jamilla Henna, which is the highest quality Henna available. You don't have to order the Jamilla brand, as I have, but you need to make certain that you check with your seller and insure that it is body art quality. Henna that is NOT body art quality is what leads to people’s hair falling out, when it reacts with chemicals in your relaxer or previous dye jobs. It instantly can cause the hair to melt out, like an strong relaxer! Frightening thought, isn’t it? So do make sure you select body art quality Henna. There are several brands of body art quality Henna available, so do your research and find Henna that is right for you.
After selecting your Henna, you need to come up with your mix. Basically, the Henna will arrive in the mail in a powder form. It is up to you to get the Henna to a thick, but moist, mud or relaxer-consistency type of mixture. People do this through numerous ways.... some add water, oils, yogurt, or conditioner.  The yogurt or conditioner is often used interchangeably. Water and oils alone won’t really give it the creamy, relaxer consistency.... that’s why folks opt for yogurt or conditioner. Since Henna naturally DRIES the hair out, I choose to use a moisturizing conditioner (SUAVE) in the hopes of combating this. Other folks have had luck with yogurt, which they also have stated is moisturizing. It’s up to you. Then you can add your favorite oils of choice. Again, this is optional. Some people just add water. I happen to love coconut oil, because it smells so nice!!! I also use Amla oil, which is an Indian oil that is suppose to promote growth and also be very conditioning. And then I add Jamaican Black Castor Oil, which is supposed to help thicken your strands over time. Essentially, you must create a mix that best suits you and meets your needs.
For those who are seeking color release, you must add ingredients to your mixture that will promote color release, i.e. lemon/lime juice, wine, or acidic product of your choice. Then you must let the mixture sit for several hours before using. This will promote color release.
Creating the Henna Mix Right For YOU
*This is a very messy process, so be certain that any good bathroom towels and rugs are covered with something old. You'll also want to survey the walls/shower curtain/toilet seat thoroughly afterward, because chunks of the Henna paste are prone to fall from your hands and/or hair.*
My Henna Mix (For Conditioning Only):
2 100 gms boxes Jamila Henna Powder
3 tbsp Amla Oil
6 tbsp EVOO
6 tbsp Honey
6 tbsp Coconut Oil
1 1/2 bottles Suave Milk & Honey Conditioner (or enough to achieve wet, relaxer-like consistency)
I apply the Henna to my hair immediately after I mix. I do not let the Henna mix sit, as I am trying to minimize color release. I am using the Henna for the conditioning aspect alone.
Once the Henna is mixed, I separate hair into small sections then, using my hands, apply paste to the length of the hair (root to tip) as though I were applying a virgin relaxer. I work the Henna in throughout, then put on a plastic cap. I sit for 1 hour (no heat) before rinsing out. After the hour is up, I rinse my hair out in the shower, then shampoo and deep condition. The end result is thicker, stronger hair, with NO color change.
My Henna Mix (For Color Release):
2 100 gms boxes Jamila Henna Powder
Lemon Juice
Hot Water
*I do not add any oils or conditioner to this mixture, as this may impede the color release*
After mixing the ingredients, I let the mixture sit from 1-3 days in the refrigerator. This time my goal is to maximize color release, as well as strengthen and condition.
When I am ready to use the Henna I remove it from the fridge and let it sit out for about 20 minutes, to get to room temperature. I don't use any heat. I separate hair into small sections then, using my hands, apply paste to the length of the hair (root to tip) as though I were applying a virgin relaxer. I work the Henna in throughout, then put on a plastic cap. I sit for 2 hours (no heat) before rinsing out. After the hour is up, I rinse my hair out in the shower, then shampoo and deep condition. The end result is thicker, stronger hair, with some color change (usually a reddish/brown color).
If your goal is to darken your hair black, then you need to order Indigo, which is the natural formula that you add for black color release. I was actually thinking about dying my hair jet black for the new year, and in that case I would add the Indigo to my mix. Black hair looks so gorgeous, doesn’t it? Plus, to me it makes the hair appear thicker, shinier, and healthier.
Click this link to view various Henna mixes with Before and After pics.
I Was Once Anti-Henna!
It’s funny actually, because I was "Anti-Henna" for a LONG time. Henna was the rage across the hair boards for a while.... But I simply ignored the whole craze, because I felt that my regimen was solid: my hair was healthy and growing..... and I didn’t feel that I should add anything new or complicated to my regimen. Henna just seemed like too much “drama,” if you will. Having to make your own mixture and so forth...... I was initially afraid of the color release...... too messy.....the whole thing just turned me off. I knew it was supposed to be the "best kept secret" in the Indian community but, honestly, I just couldn’t be bothered.......
Then I saw a few folks' Before and After pics.... and that caused me to change my tune altogether! LOL!! And I did it....... and I LOVE IT!!!!!!!!!!! I'm so happy with my hair after Henna'ing. Truthfully, I feel like I have a whole new head of hair..... when I look in the mirror, and at my pictures..... I don’t even feel like it’s me. As I stated earlier, my hair has always been super fine, soft, and thin. With Henna, I feel as though my hair has done a 180.
I think you'll be happy with the results!!! It’s very conditioning, and as long as you don’t over-due it with protein treatments simultaneously you shouldn’t have any problems with dryness or breakage. Just make sure to continue to moisturize daily and keep treating your hair like fine, imported silk!
Fine Textured Hair Before Henna:
Fine Textured Hair After Months of Henna:
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Use this mixed concoction immediately after making it, for soft and silky skin.
 Materials:
1 egg
1/2 cup light olive oil
1 tablespoon glycerin
1/2 cup dried milk powder
1 drop jasmine essential oil
1 drop rose essential oil
6 drops lavender essential oil
2 cups distilled water
Preparation:
Beat together egg, olive oil, glycerin and milk powder with a whisk or hand held beater. While beating add essential oils. Continue beating until a smooth paste forms. Add the water a little at a time, continuing to beat. Immediately add to your warm drawn bath. Homemade spa treatment courtesy of SpaIndex.com: Guide to Day Spas and Stay Spas.
Removes dry, flaky skin and leaves hands soft and fragrant.
 Ingredients:
4 tablespoons sugar
2 tablespoons sweet almond oil
1 tablespoon lime juice
Preparation:
Blend ingredients together well. Pour mixture into recycled, decorated hand soap container. Keep hand scrub next to your sink. Add one generous pump of mixture to your hands while washing them. Keeps indefinitely. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
Sprinkle into a warm bath for a luxurious soak.
 Materials:
1/2 cup of baking soda
1/4 cup of epsom salts
1/2 tsp of strawberry fragrant oil
Preparation:
Using a blender combine the ingredients until they have formed a fine powder. Store in a decorated glass jar (with small wooden spoon) or salt shaker. Make sure the bath dust remains dry or it will clog up and you won't be able to sprinkle it into your bath. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This rinse will hydrate dry skin, leaving your face soft and nourished.
 Materials:
2 tablespoons watermelon pulp
2 tablespoons witch hazel
2 tablespoons distilled water
1 tablespoon vodka
Preparation:
Strain watermelon pulp, discarding seeds. Combine ingredients and stir well. To apply, massage gently into neck, face and décolleté. Rinse well. Keeps for 7 days in an airtight container in the refrigerator. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This basic recipe makes a very soft, sweet honey lip balm that will nourish your lips and leave them shiny.
 Materials:
2 tablespoons vaseline
2 teaspoons honey
Preparation:
Put vaseline and honey into a small, microwavable container. Microwave until melted. Mix well and pour into small containers that have been sterilized. Allow balm to set before use. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
Buttermilk has a toning effect that brightens the skin. This cleanser will leave your face with a vibrant glow.
 Materials:
1 teaspoon lavender essential oil
1/4 cup of buttermilk
Preparation:
Mix the oil into the buttermilk and stir well. Apply to the face in a circular motion with a cotton ball or cloth makeup pad. Wipe clean with a cool, damp towel. Follow with a moisturizer. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
Enjoy pretty, shining lip with this sweet, natural gloss.
Materials:
6 teaspoons jojoba oil
1 teaspoon aloe vera oil
3 teaspoons beeswax
10 drops pineapple flavor oil
5 drops of orange flavor oil
3 drops yellow food coloring
 Preparation:
Melt the oils and beeswax in a double boiler on low heat until the wax is melted. Remove from the heat and, while the mix is still hot, add remaining ingredients. Stir well.
Pour hot mixture into small containers that have been sterilized. Allow balm to set before use. Makes 3-4 small pots of balm. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This sweet cream will leave your hands feeling silky and smelling delicious.
 Materials:
1 cup vaseline
4 tablespoons honey
6 tablespoons liquid glycerin
Preparation:
Melt ingredients in a double boiler on low heat until melted. Stir well. Remove from heat and pour into large glass jar with wide mouth. Allow mixture to set to a thick consistancy before use. Dip fingers into jar and scoop out for application. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This mask combines avocados (rich in Vitamin E) with carrots (high in beta-carotene) and cream (high in calcium and protein). These ingredients will rebuild skin collagen, improve tone and texture, fade age spots.
 Materials:
1 avocado, mashed
1 carrot, cooked and mashed
1/2 cup heavy cream
1 egg, beaten
1 tablespoon lemon juice
3 tablespoons honey
Preparation:
Combine all ingredients in a bowl into smooth. Spread gently over your face and neck, and leave in place 10-15 minutes. Rinse with cool water and follow with your favorite toner. Homemade spa treatment courtesy of SpaIndex.com: Guide to Day Spas and Stay Spas.
For Normal or Dry Skin
 Materials:
1 kiwi fruit
2 tablespoons of plain yoghurt
2 tablespoons sweet almond oil
1 tablespoon honey
1 tablespoon finely ground almonds
2 drops orange (or your favorite citrus) essential oil
Preparation:
Puree the kiwi fruit in a food processor until liquid. During processing, add yogurt, sweet almond oil, and ground almonds. Process until thick and cream like. Add essential oil and stir to mix. To apply, massage gently into neck, face and décolleté. Rinse well. Makes one application.
Homemade spa treatment courtesy of SpaIndex.com: Guide to Day Spas and Stay Spas.
This clarifying protein shampoo will remove product buildup and add strength and shine to your hair.
Materials:
2 eggs
1 teaspoon olive oil
2 teaspoons lemon juice
1/2 cup of water
2 tablespoons basic shampoo
Preparation:
Whip all the ingredients together and pour into recycled shampoo bottle. Shampoo hair and follow with deep conditioning treatment with heat. Remaining shampoo should be stored in the refrigerator. Keeps for 2-3 days. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
For softer, shinier hair use this nourishing pre-shampoo treatment.
 Materials:
3 tablespoons milk powder
2 tablespoons coconut oil
3 tablespoons honey
2 tablespoons olive oil
2 eggs
Preparation:
Beat the eggs until nearly white. Add other ingredients and stir well. Apply generously to hair. Wrap hair in hot, damp towel for 30 minutes. Rinse well. Shampoo and condition as usual. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This basic recipe makes a very soft, sweet lip balm that will nourish your lips and leave them shiny.
 Materials:
2 tbs of vaseline or petroleum Jelly
2 tbs of Sherbet, fun dip or similar powdered candy
3 drops red food coloring
Preparation:
Put vaseline and sherbet into a small, microwavable container. Microwave until melted. Mix well and pour into small containers that have been sterilized. Allow balm to set before use. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
The natural ingredients in this mask rebuild dry, damaged hair and add softness and shine.
 Materials:
1 ripe banana
3 tablespoons mayonaise
1 tablespoon honey
1 tablespoon olive oil
Preparation:
Puree banana in blender until completely smooth. Fold in remaining ingredients. Apply liberally to clean, damp hair. Wrap hair in hot, damp towel for 30 minutes. Rinse with cool water. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
Add this mixed concoction to a warm bath for a tropical skin softening soak.
 Materials:
8.5 oz of coconut milk
2 tablespoons dried (desiccated) coconut
1 tablespoon coconut oil
Preparation:
Pour all the ingredients into a decorated glass bottle. Add a "use by" label to the bottom of your bottle that matches the date on the bought coconut milk. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
Treatment for brittle, damaged hair
Materials:
1/4 cup sea kelp
1/2 cup olive oil
1/2 cup sage rinse
1 tablespoon coconut milk
Preparation:
Combine ingredients in a glass jar. Cap tightly and shake well. Apply liberally to clean, damp hair. Wrap hair in hot, damp towel for 30 minutes. Rinse with cool water. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
Why Use a Protein Treatment?
The Aphogee Treatment For Damaged Hair has a wonderful restorative and fixative value for damaged, chemically processed hair. It repairs the hair for up to six weeks and then needs to be repeated.
Protein treatments are important when you want to strengthen the hair cuticle, and stop/prevent breakage, split ends, and shedding. Since hair is made up of about 70% keratin protein, giving it a good, hardcore protein treatment will help to strengthen it from the inside out. An intense protein treatment like this one is ONLY necessary every 6-8 weeks (as needed), and it will keep the hair shaft strong and prevent breakage before it even starts.
Before We Begin:
After you've tried this ONCE and gotten the initial “scare” out of the way.... it really becomes quite fun! Watching your hair harden before your eyes, like the helmet of a Warrior Princess, is very cool!
*Please note that I find it best to do this without a shirt on and without a towel around the neck.*
The reason why it’s best to be shirtless is because, as your hair starts to harden and dry, it sticks to the surface of whatever it is touching. If you have a towel around your neck, or a shirt on, the hair may stick to the fabric.... and you may unable to remove it without tearing the hair.
If you opt to leave your hair down rather than pinned up during the treatment, try not to move your head around too much as it hardens/dries and sticks to your back. While the sensation of that is very annoying, it’s best to leave it be, lest you inadvertently tear/break the strands.
Now We’re Ready To Get Started:
1) Two weeks after a touch-up I use the Aphogee protein treatment. After shampooing, saturate hair with the Aphogee treatment. Do NOT comb through. Use your fingers to gently and quickly work it into the hair.
2) Apply heat to the hair, using a hooded dryer or a blow dryer with funnel attachment. You should feel your hair harden, like a helmet. Do NOT try to comb or manipulate your hair during this time. If your hair is long (i.e., beyond armpit) make certain to concentrate the heat toward the ends, so that can harden as well.
3) Once your hair is hard all over, rinse the treatment out THOROUGHLY. As soon as the water starts to hit it, you should feel the hair start to soften immediately. At this point, you still don’t need to use your fingers/comb to manipulate the air. The pressure from the water will be sufficient to soften the hair.
4) Follow up with the Aphogee Moisturizing Humuctant. I then apply another moisturizing conditioner, usually a cheap condition (i.e., Suave Milk and Honey or V05) blended with a few heaping spoons of honey and olive oil. I let this to sit in my hair for about fifteen minutes before rinsing.
*NOTE* It is essential to MOISTURIZE after a strong protein treatment, as overuse of a protein conditioner can cause the hair to become dry and brittle.
5) Moisturize with a generous amount of the ORS Olive Oil OR the Cantu Shea Butter: Break Cure & Strengthening Treatment, put into one plait, and bun to air-dry.
*NOTE* An intense protein treatment like this one is ONLY necessary every 6-8 weeks (as needed), and it will keep the hair shaft strong and prevent breakage before it even starts.
Final Note:
As you can probably tell, your hair is VERY fragile throughout this entire process. However, just be very cautious and vigilant during this process, and you will see that it is WELL worth the mess and hassle!!!!
Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This scrub is suitable for all skin types and leaves the skin dewey and unclogged.
Materials:
 2 tablespoons almond meal
4 tablespoons honey
2 teaspoons orange juice
Preparation:
Mix ingredients to form a paste. Using fingertips, gently massage scrub into your face in circular motions and leave in place 10 minutes. Rinse with cool water. Use a moisturizer thereafter. Refrigerate to store. Keeps for 2-3 days. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This body scrub will remove dead skin cells and leave your skin feeling soft, silky, and hydrated.
 Materials:
2 cups of sea salt
2 tablespoons lemon juice
3/4 cup sweet almond oil
1/2 tsp of lemon fragrant oil
loofah sponge
Preparation:
Combine ingredients and stir well. Dip the loofah into your lemon mixture. Using circular movements, rub over the skin, including the face. Give extra attention to rough areas. Continue to do this until your body is covered. Rinse off in a cool shower and pat dry. Follow up with a soothing moisturizer. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
Sprinkle into a warm bath for a luxurious soak.
 Materials:
1/2 cup of baking soda
1/4 cup epsom salts
1/2 teaspoon vanilla fragrant oil
Preparation:
Using a blender combine the ingredients until they have formed a fine powder. Store in a decorated glass jar (with small wooden spoon) or salt shaker. Make sure the bath dust remains dry or it will clog up and you won't be able to sprinkle it into your bath. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This exfoliation removes dead skin cells, gently firms, and leaves your skin smooth and silky.
Materials:
1/2 cup coarse sea salt
1/4 cup rosemary oil
loofah sponge
Preparation:
Dip your loofah into the rosemary oil. Then dip the loofah into the salt. Using circular movements, massage into the skin. Give extra attention to rough areas. Continue to do this until your body is covered. Rinse off in a cool shower and pat dry. Follow up with a soothing moisturizer. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
This overnight treatment will reduce redness as the result of sunburn or windburn.
 Materials:
1 cup aloe vera gel
2 tablespoons chopped fresh mango
1 lime, juiced
Preparation:
Puree the aloe vera gel, chopped mango, and the juice of one lime. Chill mixture, and apply to face at night with clean cotton pads. The toner will feel slightly sticky from the exfoliating sugars in the mango. Leave on overnight, and rinse in the morning with cool water. Keeps for approximately 2 weeks.
This recipe was created by the Lodge at Skylonda, Woodside, California. Dr. Yakini is a clinical psychologist and freelance lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, NY. She owns and edits Girly Home Webzine®, the online magazine for ladies living siddity in the city. Dr. Yakini can be reached at girlyhomewebzine@gmail.com.
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